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What I Plan to Keep from 2020

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2020 has been a challenging year for reasons I don’t need to rehash. Instead, I’ll focus on the positive things gained over the year, the things I’d like to keep with me beyond 2020.

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Challenges, Commentary, Inspiration

Sitting with Discomfort

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It is exactly in times like this–pandemic, political turmoil, racial tensions–that we need to learn how to sit with our feelings of discomfort.

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Challenges, Commentary

Where to go from here…

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I hate writing these stupid, “well it’s been a while…” posts. But I can’t ignore that it’s been two years since I published my last post on the self-styled life. […]

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My Story
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If you’re trying to downsize or simplify, here’s a simple way to approach your effort.

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Inspiration
"Eye of the Needle" by Matthew Pepper on theselfstyledlife.com

Q&A with Rowenna Miller, author of “Torn” + BOOK GIVEAWAY!

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On Monday, I posted a review of Rowenna Miller’s novel, Torn, the first book in the fantasy series, The Unravelled Kingdom. She very graciously agreed to answer a few questions […]

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Book Review
Review of Rowenna Miller's "Torn" on the self-styled life

Book Review: “Torn” by Rowenna Miller

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In the fall I wrote about the restorative power of literature, and on that theme, I recently had the pleasure of reading Rowenna Miller’s Torn, the first book in a series […]

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Book Review
Productivity Hack: Context Zones on theselfstyledlife.com

Productivity Hack: Context Zones

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Ever searching for ways to streamline my efforts and up my productivity in this weirdly slow-yet-also-chaotic time in my life, I recently came across this idea of “context zones,” conceptualized […]

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Life Hacks

Speaking Truth to Oprah’s Power

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I wrote this letter nearly 4 years ago, and never received a response. It is my plea to Oprah to address the fact that a man she promoted, James Ray, […]

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Commentary, My Story

When You Can’t Take a Vacation… take a mental one.

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If I had unlimited funding and if life didn’t require my regular presence in one place, I’d travel on vacation at least once a month. Maybe go away for a […]

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Book Review, Inspiration
The Never-ending Effort to Find Balance on the self-styled life

The Never-ending Effort to find Balance

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One of my yoga instructors likes to talk us through class with anecdotes and reflections. Today, as we teetered into (and fell out of) dancer’s pose, she talked about balance. […]

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My Story, Work/Life Balance
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And you just begin…

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A fun thing happened to me recently. I started doing some freelance writing and have actually gotten paid for it. (!!!) This is a major milestone for me. Milestones are […]

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Inspiration, My Story

Postcards from Beyond

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Do you love postcards?  I do. I love receiving them. I love sending them. Mostly I am bad at that second part and end up with a stack of unwritten […]

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My Story

Small Wonders–Appreciating the Ordinary

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My husband is currently on 15 weeks of “parental leave.” (In Canada, mothers are entitled to 15 weeks of maternity leave. Then 35 weeks of parental leave is typically also taken […]

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Happiness

White Walls

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We’re currently in the process of preparing the baby’s room for his or her arrival in October. As we’ve been planning and readying the space, I find I’m drawn to the […]

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Commentary, Parenthood

“Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt” – Seek Safely

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Have you seen Netflix original series, Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt yet? It’s a lighthearted sitcom starring Ellie Kemper (The Office, Bridesmaids), created by Tina Fey. It follows the main character, Kimmy, as she […]

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Commentary

10 Year University Reunion!

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My group of friends had been emailing for months. Our 10 year undergrad reunion was coming up, and we were all planning to go! It was an especially big trip for […]

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My Story

Taking the First Steps

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When you have a goal in mind, big or small, what’s the most important element in achieving it? For me, it’s always about taking the first step. But though it’s easy to acknowledge, […]

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Dreams, My Story

Signature Style, the Next Steps: Capsule Wardrobes

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Have you heard of this capsule wardrobe thing? Probably owing to Pinterest, they’ve become very popular in the last few years. What it is: a limited, intentional wardrobe of usually about 35-40 pieces (often excluding accessories, […]

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Life Hacks, My Story

Changing back into What You’ve Always Been

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In the yoga series I follow at home, Namaste, each episode ends with a bow and a quote from Kate Potter, the developer and narrator of the TV series. The […]

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Inspiration

The truth about being a stay-at-home parent

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A while back, I gave some tips on how to become a stay-at-home parent for the many parents I know who are struggling with going back to work after having a baby. […]

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Parenthood

Feature Friday: Bruce Mau on the Power of Design

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“Design is… a method of leadership… you can design the life that you want to live.” -Bruce Mau on CBC’s The Current Yesterday, I again heard CBC’s The Current talk […]

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Feature Friday

Developing a Signature Style

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Mommy Slob As a stay at home mom, my daily wardrobe consists of comfy, easy-to-clean, not-too-dear pieces of clothing so that I am unencumbered as I crawl, climb, and cuddle […]

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Life Hacks

Make a Plan to Actually Keep that New Year’s Resolution

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We must always change, renew, rejuvenate ourselves; otherwise, we harden. Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe Do you set New Year’s Resolutions? I’ve talked about them before, about the process of reflecting […]

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Uncategorized

The Stranger: Creepy Song, Solid Message

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The Stranger: I actually kind of hate this song, but it’s though-provoking.

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Inspiration

Feature Friday: Productivity Habits from Pick Any Two

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You may have noticed that I’m a little preoccupied with being productive and organized–probably a common obsession for anyone who is driven to make the most of their lives. Judging […]

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Feature Friday, Life Hacks

On Meditating (and a beginner-level meditation technique!)

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Part of my recent effort to take better care of myself and not fall into a pit of mommy self-neglect has been adding meditation to my daily routine. Benefits of […]

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Inspiration

Organizational Tools: Paper or Digital?

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When I was growing up, my mother was rarely found without her agenda planner. She was particular about the style–an 8.5″x11″ spiral-bound book with a gold embossed, black leather-look cover. […]

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Life Hacks

Go to the Dentist Already! and other notes on the importance of taking care of yourself

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I always said I wouldn’t “let myself go.” I would stay healthy. Stay in shape. Keep up my appearance. Keep my wardrobe age-appropriately on trend. Get regular check-ups. Do things […]

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Parenthood

Book Review: “Wild” by Cheryl Strayed

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The at times scorching, at times freezing, frequently wet and always heavy surface of Cheryl Strayed’s memoir Wild is enough to be engaging: a hapless, amateur hiker taking on one […]

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Book Review

When our Dream Life appears rather Ordinary…

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I have to laugh sometimes when I take stock and decide I’m living my dream life. Is this really what I imagined for myself? Staying at home with a toddler, […]

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Dreams, Happiness, Inspiration

Five Years of Grief and Getting On

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From the moment that I stood in the receiving line at the wake–watching shocked face after shocked face go by, grasping their hands, hugging them–I somehow felt like I was the one […]

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Challenges, My Story

Happy Birthday to my Two Year Old!

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Though you were born on October 2nd, it’s October 1st I will always think on as the day you decided to be born, finally making your grand entrance at midnight. […]

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My Story, Parenthood

The House that Taught me Style

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Even as a busy child I knew there was something about my best friend’s house. My own house was comfortable and cozy, clean and styled in its way. A fairly typical country […]

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My Story, word sketches

Blog Hop Part 1: Peering into the Lit Window

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Whenever I’m walking down the street at night, I can’t help but look into the houses I pass–the light within standing out in the darkness so that you can see […]

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Inspiration, My Story

The Open Letter to Oprah: A Follow-up

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About 3 1/2 months have passed since I posted my open letter to Oprah. Many people have asked me for a follow-up, so here it is. My sincerest thanks again to […]

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My Story, Open Letters

Why I’m Signing the SEEK Safely Promise

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A big push at SEEK Safely, the non-profit organization my family began in response to my sister’s death at a self-help event, has been getting the self-help industry to adopt the […]

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Inspiration

In Defence of Aging

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Recently, I made my husband promise that he would support my effort to embrace a natural aging process rather than spending the rest of my life trying to look younger. He squeezed my […]

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Challenges, Commentary

How to Become a Stay-at-Home Mom/Dad in 5 Not at all Easy Steps

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I love being a stay-at-home mom. It’s definitely not easy. It’s exhausting, messy, maddening, solitary (and did I say exhausting?). It’s really and truly the most taxing and tiring job […]

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Life Hacks, My Story, Parenthood

Hatching a Plan to Live Small

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After sharing a room with my older sister, I moved into my very own room when I was about 5. It was a glorified closet. I picked out the wallpaper […]

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Inspiration, My Story

Defining Moments: The Moments about which I will Forever Write

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Last week, Caitlin Kelly at Broadside wrote about life-changing moments: the events that divide “the moments before and the moments afterward into two very different lives.” Check it out–it’s a beautiful […]

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Challenges, Inspiration, My Story

How Often do You Praise Yourself?

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One recent afternoon, Linden was (suprisingly) contentedly sitting in her stroller on the way home from the park. We passed by another mom and child combo, and the mother looked […]

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Parenthood

Notes of An Exasperated Would-be Home Buyer

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I recently came across two different reports/commentaries in the media relating to millennials and our financial situations that made me want to break things. Those Rich Millennials, buying all the houses… […]

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Commentary, My Generation

An Open Letter to Oprah, Regarding Your Silence on James Ray

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Dear Oprah, In 2006, you questioned James Frey, author of A Million Little Pieces, to find out the truth. You had promoted his book, and after the allegations mounted against the veracity of […]

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Commentary, Open Letters

Make Time: How Digital Communication is Turning Us Into Shitty Friends.

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One of the things I find really interesting in the time-spending of some of the great minds in history is that many of them set aside time for “correspondences.” They […]

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Challenges, Life Hacks

On being an Ok Mom.

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I’m not a perfect mom. Definitely not. I’ve yelled at my kid (who’s only 18 months.) I’ve given her french fries for a meal (or two.) I’ve changed her diaper, […]

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Parenthood

Wondering what to be when you grow up? Get some perspective.

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What do I want to be when I grow up? I’ve asked this question on the self-styled life before. And if you’re new here, read this, or this, or this, […]

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Inspiration, My Story, Parenthood

Homesickness: The Chronic Illness of an Expat

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I just booked our summer vacation–a week in Scotland followed by a long weekend in Germany. I am Excited. We’ve been to Scotland before. And we loved it. My father’s […]

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Challenges, My Story

The Adult Gap Year: Sabbatical

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A while back, I discussed the virtues of a gap year — a common practice in Europe in which students take a year off between high school and university to travel. […]

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Inspiration, Life Hacks, Travel

Long Walks

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My 18 month old daughter, Linden, started walking in mid-January. While the muck and ice of winter kept her bundled in the stroller for all outdoor adventures, she sharpened her […]

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Featured, Happiness, Parenthood

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